A teenager may rely heavily on a wide variety of addictive substances or behaviours to cope with stress, anxiety, and other circumstances in their life. Long-term addiction can have a lasting negative impact on a teen’s life. How to help your teenager with addiction varies in approach.
While some teens respond to gentle encouragement to make healthy choices, others reject them outright. It’s a fine line as teens chase rewards, risk, and freedom from their parents. Here is how to help if they’re struggling with addiction.
Don’t Confront Them at a Bad Time or Place
First and foremost, a conversation with a teenager about their addiction must be a conversation, not a confrontation. You should always choose a time and place where you and your partner are comfortable. Ideally, this isn’t somewhere you could be interrupted or distracted. It should be somewhere quiet and talkable.
Ask Them for Their Views on What They’re Doing
Let them guide the conversation. Ask them for their opinions and views on their addiction. Let them know they can be honest. Avoid lectures, scare tactics, or advice on how to start.
Get them talking about their actions and where they’re coming from. If they feel heard and can openly discuss their thoughts, this creates a pathway towards helping them.
Be Available to Them If They Need You
A teenager may not recognize they have an addiction and not want to quit. At a certain point, there is very little an adult can do if a teenager is not ready to take the step themselves.
However, you can let them know you’re there and available. If they need your help paying for treatment or anything else, you will be there to help them. This action can mean a lot.
Arrange for Help from an Addiction Treatment Center
Addiction treatment centers are available for all sorts of addictions, from alcohol and substance abuse to food addiction, pornography addiction, and more.
If a teenager is in the throes of abuse and addiction, it might be time to arrange therapy at an addiction treatment center. Help is available when professionals supervise treatment.
Emphasize Consequences with No Judgment
When discussing addiction with them, it is essential not to judge them. Do not shame them. Work to ensure you’re not using any language that might put them or their decisions off. Instead, focus on the consequences. When/if you do ‘x,’ the consequence is ‘y’. As a result, they will be made aware of the results of their actions without being judged.
Provide Support and Build Their Self-Esteem
A person in addiction needs support. Offer praise and encouragement when a teenager succeeds. This creates a strong bond and builds their self-esteem. Please don’t give them unearned compliments, but when they accomplish something, highlight it and let them know you see it. Many addiction sufferers suffer from low self-esteem.
Arrange For Them to Speak with a Counselor
There is an underlying cause to why a teenager has an addiction. Arrange for your teen to speak to a mental health counselor. Address the underlying cause, whether depression, anxiety, or another disorder.
Investigate the underlying cause of that. Counseling can be extremely helpful to teens with a history of traumatic events or abuse, low self-esteem, and who are dealing with themes of social rejection.
Encourage Your Teen to Get Involved in Other Activities
Get them out of the environment in which they engage with their addiction. Get them around new people, do something that interests them, and get them involved in something else.
If a teenager wants to quit their addiction, they have to replace the time and energy that they would put into that behaviour with another activity.
Encourage Them to Share Their Struggles with Friends
It is difficult to kick an addiction alone. If your teenager does not want to connect with you and lean on you for support, encourage them to talk to their friends about quitting the addiction.
Supportive friends can contribute positively to addiction recovery. Let the addicted person know that you’re ready to support them if they need your support.
Establish Your Boundaries
Set up rules and boundaries if a teenager refuses to deal with their addiction. Ensure they know where it’s acceptable or not acceptable to pursue their addiction as it relates to you.
If you’re a parent, you might tell them you don’t want them doing it in the family home. You might also threaten to kick them out if the addiction is particularly traumatic. Whatever the boundaries and consequences are, enforce them.
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