How do I handle teen anger and rage? My teen has a bad temper, quick to anger, rage and even destructive at times.
Teenage anger is a normal part of adolescence and can be a healthy emotional response to outside stressors. Anger is a secondary emotion for teens as it often masks other underlying issues including sadness, hurt, fear, and shame. When these underlying emotions become too much, a teen will often respond by lashing out.
“I don’t care what you say! I am doing what I want to do! I hate you and you just don’t want me to have fun!” “All my friends are allowed to stay out late– you are mean and want to ruin my life!” “You have no idea how I feel and you are only making it worse!”
Does this sound familiar?
-Is your teen entitled?
-Struggle with ADHD, ODD?
-Do they disrespect you?
-Do they backtalk you?
-Do they swear at you?
-Are they destructive in your home?
-Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells?
When a difficult teen is out of control, they only can hear themselves and what they want. It is usually their way or no way!
There are so many factors that can contribute to these feelings. The feelings are very real and should be addressed as soon as you see that your child is starting to run the household. Teen anger may lead to teen rage and teen violence which can soon destroy a family.
Anger is an emotion that is quite often challenging for teens and at times can be overwhelming. A teen who doesn’t know how to cope with angry feelings may feel a strong desire to act directly on these feelings, even when it puts them or others at risk.
Is your teen struggling with:
- Depression (anxiety)
- Internet or gaming addiction
- Substance use (vaping)
- Changing peer groups
- Withdrawn, isolating from family and friends
- Loss of interest in hobbies
These could be signs of your teenager is suffering with a mental health issue that needs to be addressed. It’s time to seek professional help from an adolescence therapist or school counselor.
Parents tell us constantly that they are looking for a boot camp to achieve their mission to make their teen pay for the pain they are putting the family through. In some cases this can create a violent teen.
We feel that when you place a negative child into a negative atmosphere, most children only gain resentment and more anger. We do not recommend boot camps.
P.U.R.E.™ believes in a positive peer culture for teen help to build your child back up from the helplessness they feel. Learn more about therapeutic boarding schools that offer enrichment programs such as animal assisted therapy to help young people learn coping skills for anger management.
Contact us today for a free consultation about how to find the right therapeutic boarding school for your teen.